Perfectionist Unplugged: Enjoying vs Enduring Striving

What *really* happens when you upgrade from control to power, the suck of growth as a perfectionist and ultimately finding empowerment in what initially seems like a total disaster. Join me (CLG) on the never before shared journey of choosing to rise to the occasion of being a perfectionist as I unravel my own striving, intrusive thoughts and how to playfully let go.

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Featured On Episode 200:

• courtneylovegavin.com
• Power of Paradox ep. 143
• Navigating Advocacy As A Perfectionist (Ep. 1 Self-Advocacy Series)
• Sunk Cost Fallacy (Ep. 2 Self-Advocacy Series)
• Medical Gaslighting + Misdiagnosis (Ep. 3 Self-Advocacy Series)
• How To Let Go Of Perfectionism (Shame Avoidance) ep. 145

Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 200 Timestamps:

00:00-Striving becomes Self-sabotage

04:15-Once Upon A Perfectionist named CLG

6:06-Black and white thinking

10:38-How to stop overthinking

12:22-Embodied Presence Interoception Connection (E.P.I.C. Framework™)

13:20-Shifting from Shame Avoidance to Satisfying Success

14:42-Practice Makes Permanent

15:51-Intrusive Thoughts

17:27-Enjoying your perfectionism instead of enduring

20:43-Fixed Mindset

25:00-How To Feel Good NOW

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Dorevitch, B., Buck, K., Fuller‐Tyszkiewicz, M., Phillips, L., & Krug, I. (2020). Maladaptive Perfectionism and Depression: Testing the Mediating Role of Self-Esteem and Internalized Shame in an Australian Domestic and Asian International University Sample. Frontiers in Psychology, 11. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2020.01272
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Jung, C. G. (1957). The transcendent function.

Montano, L. T. (2023). The Relationship of Perfectionism and Peace of Mind: The Mediating Role of Implicit Theories of Intelligence. Psychological Studies, 68(3), 447–462. https://doi.org/10.1007/s12646-023-00739-1
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Stoeber, J., Madigan, D. J., & Lazaros Gonidis. (2020). Perfectionism is adaptive and maladaptive, but what’s the combined effect? Personality and Individual Differences, 161, 109846–109846. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.paid.2020.109846