Perfectionist Unplugged: Enjoying vs Enduring Striving
January 07, 2024

Perfectionist Unplugged: Enjoying vs Enduring Striving

What *really* happens when you upgrade from control to power, the suck of growth as a perfectionist and ultimately finding empowerment in what initially seems like a total disaster. Join me (CLG) on the never before shared journey of choosing to rise to the occasion of being a perfectionist as I unravel my own striving, intrusive thoughts and how to playfully let go.

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Featured On Episode 200:


Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 200 Timestamps:

00:00-Striving becomes Self-sabotage

04:15-Once Upon A Perfectionist named CLG

6:06-Black and white thinking

10:38-How to stop overthinking

12:22-Embodied Presence Interoception Connection (E.P.I.C. Framework™)

13:20-Shifting from Shame Avoidance to Satisfying Success

14:42-Practice Makes Permanent

15:51-Intrusive Thoughts

17:27-Enjoying your perfectionism instead of enduring

20:43-Fixed Mindset

25:00-How To Feel Good NOW


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