How to Harmonize Striving For Excellence w/ A High-Stakes Career

[00:00:00] We're not robots and I know that logically we know that we're not robots

[00:00:03] But a lot of the time the way that we manage ourselves

[00:00:07] The way that we try to shoehorn ourselves and fit ourselves into these I need to be this box or like this box checker life

[00:00:13] Is we do that subconsciously? We don't even think that oh wait wait. Why am I doing this?

[00:00:19] Like why am I following this rule? Do I like this rule? Do I want this rule? Do I want to continue with this rule?

[00:00:25] Wait, I'm in charge what?

[00:00:27] Yes

[00:00:28] Courage and strengthen yourself that like you no longer have fear steering the bus for you

[00:00:35] If you are ready to burn bright instead of burning out to lead without losing yourself and to enjoy the life

[00:00:41] You have worked so hard to create then keep listening

[00:00:45] I'm your host america's leader on rewiring perfectionism clg

[00:00:51] And this is perfectionism rewired the podcast

[00:00:55] Welcome to perfectionism rewired my career. It felt like the place where I had the most

[00:01:02] on the line

[00:01:04] To risk when it came to my perfectionistic habits because

[00:01:08] It was the one place where for the most part they never really failed me. I was fisting

[00:01:16] And we know what happens when you're fisting you can't open up to anything new when your fists are closed

[00:01:22] No matter what else was happening in my life

[00:01:24] I could always achieve whether it was when I was little and I was in school or

[00:01:28] You know undergrad grad running global pr communications for a half a billion dollar studio

[00:01:36] It was like at least I had this

[00:01:39] I used to probably about every

[00:01:43] Six to eight weeks get to a point where

[00:01:47] I would be spent it would have the sentiment of like I hate my clients

[00:01:53] Now I knew that that wasn't true, but I was like, oh, okay. This is a sign that like you're really tired

[00:01:58] I love creating and I love achieving and I love setting new standards of excellence for myself

[00:02:03] I love learning. I love growing that will never ever change

[00:02:08] But now it's not heavy. It's not exhausting like it used to be

[00:02:14] It's not like oh, I have this or oh, I need a whole day to do this

[00:02:18] I think that's so interesting because

[00:02:21] I'm doing a lot more now

[00:02:24] I'm having to be cook and prepare meticulously all of my own foods because of the small intestine

[00:02:32] I'm doing more in my business with corporate trainings and workshops. It's like, whoa

[00:02:39] I'm doing my output is 80 higher. It's because of the rewiring

[00:02:44] I no longer fight myself

[00:02:47] I ride the waves of my own ocean that sounds simple and delightful and it is but getting there a lot of thrashing

[00:02:54] In the beginning when I started this journey and maybe where you are

[00:02:59] I was like, I need to work less because I was so tired because I was so exhausted

[00:03:04] Maybe you're feeling that way because I was just like it doesn't stop like it's always something I barely have any time for myself

[00:03:11] I felt like I was like run ragged

[00:03:14] And if anyone would have been like, well, why don't you do more?

[00:03:18] My reaction would be like, well, why don't you go fuck yourself gf y

[00:03:22] So I get it like I'm not encouraging you to do more

[00:03:25] But this is where the slowdown to speed up comes in having that support of like, okay

[00:03:29] I'm gonna take this leap. I'm gonna take this leap and I'm gonna see what happens

[00:03:33] And the leap was

[00:03:35] Not fighting against myself, which I didn't even realize I was doing all the conditioning and you know working in corporate and

[00:03:44] then

[00:03:44] unconsciously transferring that over to

[00:03:47] Entrepreneurship and just saying well, I have to do it this way. I have to do it now

[00:03:51] I have to I have to I have to and then sort of being like, well, what if I don't

[00:03:55] And that was really scary like for me because like I didn't see anyone else

[00:04:00] Like I didn't have any models that I could follow

[00:04:04] That were me, but I mean there is only one me

[00:04:07] So it it was that okay

[00:04:09] I'm gonna trust in myself and my abilities and knowing

[00:04:14] That I'm scrappy. I know that like I am resilient af and that I can always figure it out

[00:04:21] I can always figure it out like

[00:04:24] Would I be really really disappointed if no one wanted to work with me and all of you were like by clg

[00:04:30] Yeah, I would probably be crushed

[00:04:32] But also I would know that I can figure it the f out like I can rise

[00:04:38] At the time I might not know that there are diamonds in the mud

[00:04:42] But like a lot of gems would come out of that experience

[00:04:46] Not that I want that to happen or I'm anticipating that happening

[00:04:49] But it's just like that courage and strength in yourself that like you no longer have fear steering the bus for you

[00:04:57] We all have our area where it's just more of a tender spot

[00:05:01] My career no matter what else was happening in my life

[00:05:04] I could always achieve whether it was when I was little and I was in school or

[00:05:09] You know undergrad grad running

[00:05:12] Global pr communications for a half a billion dollar studio. It was like at least I had this

[00:05:19] So it was like giving I'm gonna let go of everything that I know that has made me successful

[00:05:26] I'm going to experiment with new ways as your coach. I'm always like yay experimentation

[00:05:31] It's really fun and it is really fun, but I also totally get that it could be like

[00:05:37] Oh my gosh. I don't know I'm letting go

[00:05:40] And that's why you have me

[00:05:42] I just wanted to share on the other side like oh

[00:05:45] I no longer have this

[00:05:47] Stressy and it's just so funny because I was looking at what I want to accomplish today and like what I've done the other days

[00:05:53] There's just this ease to it. I would call BS some people and they're like, oh, I'm just in flow

[00:05:58] You know, it's like well sometimes I am the differences is that when I feel the flow

[00:06:03] I go with it

[00:06:04] I ride the waves of my own ocean and when I'm not I'm not

[00:06:07] It changes all the time the tide goes in the tide goes out the tide goes in the tide goes out

[00:06:12] That's just how we are like we're not robots and I know that logically we know that we're not robots

[00:06:16] But a lot of the time the way that we manage ourselves

[00:06:20] And the way that we try to shoe shoehorn ourselves and fit ourselves into these like okay

[00:06:25] I need to be this box or like this box checker life is we do that

[00:06:29] Subconsciously we don't even think that oh wait. Wait. Why am I like why am I doing this?

[00:06:35] Like why am I following this rule? Do I like this rule? Do I want this rule?

[00:06:38] Do I want to continue with this rule? Wait, I'm in charge. What?

[00:06:42] Yes, this is just a

[00:06:45] Update share. I don't even know what we're gonna call it

[00:06:48] But I know that I love to hear these things gives me like the motivation and like the inspiration to be like

[00:06:54] Okay, if she can do it, I can do it too

[00:06:56] Yeah, if I can do it you can for sure do it

[00:06:59] And it's not going to take you as long as it took me because I've already done all the bushwhacking and

[00:07:04] gone through the

[00:07:05] The the jungle and face the snakes and all of that. So it's like a much clear calmer more cheerful path

[00:07:14] I guide you through if you have been fighting against yourself

[00:07:17] You've done very well for yourself

[00:07:19] Just imagine how far and how fun your entire life will get

[00:07:26] When you rewire your perfectionism and you get the strongest

[00:07:32] sumptuous support from me as your one-on-one coach if you are interested in that you can apply to

[00:07:38] work with me

[00:07:40] By going to courtenialupgavin.com

[00:07:43] Slash contact listen up taking charge of your perfectionism is so much easier than you have been led to believe

[00:07:51] Whether you want to stop playing out worst-case scenarios in your head or be joyfully present ambitious again

[00:07:57] You don't need more rigid rules guesswork or hard work in perfectionism recovery

[00:08:04] You need a framework that helps you understand and most importantly

[00:08:09] Rewire your perfectionistic habits from the inside out it starts inside of perfectionism

[00:08:16] optimized besides the obvious mental health and wellness benefits rewiring your perfectionism is the fastest way to figure out

[00:08:23] What's really underneath your perfectionistic patterns this radically different proven

[00:08:30] proprietary approach helps you succeed by dropping the contempt and judgment that blocks change

[00:08:37] Discover how to trust yourself take control of your world and feel truly empowered to own your perfectionism

[00:08:45] Instead of being owned by it head on over to courtenialupgavin.com and start your transformation today

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