Unlearning Learned Helplessness
April 21, 2024

Unlearning Learned Helplessness

Feel like Perfectionism is controlling you? That you’re at the mercy of your perfectionist tendencies? Or that life would be easier if you weren’t such a perfectionist? Perfectionism is not a choice. But you can choose how you want to navigate through it, and that choice is powerful. Discover how the greats Dolly Parton, Serena Williams, Kobe Bryant, Sara Blakely, Marie Kondo have leveraged their perfectionism to shine. Through scientific research and personal experiences, you'll discover step-by-step how it's possible to rewire your perfectionistic habits from the inside out, just like CLG did.


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00:00-Understanding Learned Helplessness Embedded In Perfectionism Recovery

01:28-Challenging Lies About Perfectionists with Science

02:16-Celebrating Famous Perfectionists Behind World-Changing Innovation

03:55-WTF Are Enduring Identity Markers + Why Do They Matter?

05:12-Unlearning Learned Helplessness with Dr. Martin Seligman (Godfather of Positive Psychology)

06:11-The Problem With Blaming Perfectionism

07:03-Flipping Helplessness to Empowerment

08:46-Rediscovering Being In Charge and Response-ability

10:12-Helplessness + Feeling Out of Control Re: Childhood Conditioning

11:58-Reframing Perfectionism as an Empowerment Journey

13:20-How To Quit Fighting Against Your Perfectionism + Work WITH It

15:05-What incest + perfectionism recovery have in common

16:40-Getting Your Perfectionism Right

17:25-Quality Questions To Snuff Out Helplessness


Truth + Accuracy In Episode 219 Is Brought To You By:

Abramson, L. Y., Seligman, M. E., & Teasdale, J. D. (1978). Learned helplessness in humans: Critique and reformulation. Journal of Abnormal Psychology, 87(1), 49–74. https://doi.org/10.1037/0021-843X.87.1.49

Quchani, M. (2023). The mediating role of coping styles in the association between perfectionism and learned helplessness in students’ population. Annales Médico-Psychologiques, 181(7), 619–627. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.amp.2022.07.010

Woodfin, V., Binder, P. E., & Molde, H. (2020). The Psychometric Properties of the Frost Multidimensional Perfectionism Scale–Brief. Frontiers in Psychology, 11, 1860.

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