Dealing With Uncertainty When You Want To Control EVERYTHING

Craving Certainty? That need to be absolutely, undeniably, 100% sure before making a move? You’re not alone. In this episode, I unravel why the struggle of dealing with uncertainty holds high performance perfectionists back, how to recognize it in your own life and take control of the fear uncertainty and doubt (so it stops controlling you!). You’ll discover practical strategies to break free from the cage of high uncertainty avoidance and gain the confidence to move forward, even before every detail is known.

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TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-High Uncertainty Avoidance

00:40-What Perfectionists ARE Secretly in Control Of

01:36-Why Perfectionists Crave Certainty

02:21-Examples of Uncertainty

03:39-The Myth of Ironclad Certainty

04:47-Uncertainty Tolerance is a Learnable Skill

05:34-Making Good Decisions

06:50-Moving Forward Even When You Don't Know The Outcome

07:27-Rewiring Perfectionism from the Inside Out

Resources Mentioned In Episode 243:

• Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 Private Coaching
• Impeccable Boundaries Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 239
• Fixed Mindset Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 234
• Unlearning Learned Helplessness Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 202

Citations/Sources:

• Anderson, E. C., R. Nicholas Carleton, Diefenbach, M., & Paul. (2019). The Relationship Between Uncertainty and Affect. Frontiers in Psychology, 10. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2019.02504
• Reis-Dennis, S., Gerrity, M. S., & Geller, G. (2021). Tolerance for Uncertainty and Professional Development: a Normative Analysis. Journal of General Internal Medicine, 36(8), 2408–2413. https://doi.org/10.1007/s11606-020-06538-y
• Seif, M. N., & Winston, S. M. (2019). Needing to Know For Sure: A CBT-Based Guide to Overcoming Compulsive Checking and Reassurance Seeking . New Harbinger Publications.

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