It's Always Something! 3 Key Areas Perfectionists Must Fix to Stop Overwhelm

[00:00:00] It's Always Something You Find Like Everything Under Control, Which We Know Is Perfectionist We Love And Your Partner Get Sick

[00:00:10] A colleague Flakes Out At Work You Get In A Car Accident Just When You Feel Like You Got It All Together The Rug It Swipped Up From Under You Never Get To Just Stop Worrying

[00:00:22] And Have A Moment Of Yourself Or You Can Just Like Feel Good If That's You Today's Emerson Got You Covered

[00:00:28] If You Are Ready To Burn Bright Instead Of Burning Out To Lead Without Losing Yourself And To Enjoy The Life You Have

[00:00:35] Worked So Hard To Create Then Keep Listening.

[00:00:38] I'm Your host, America's Leader On Rewiring Perfectionism, CLG And This Is Perfectionism Rewired The Podcast

[00:00:47] Welcome to Perfectionism Rewired Today We Are Dysetting It's Always Something

[00:00:54] It's Always Something Get In The Way Why Does This Keep Happening?

[00:00:58] Maybe You Turn It In Word And Think What You're Doing Wrong In This Episode I'm Gonna dive

[00:01:03] Into The Three Key Areas For You To Look At So You Can Desolve The Why Is This Always Happening?

[00:01:12] It's Always Something From Your Life So That You Can Have More Calm and Confidence Unless

[00:01:20] chaotic and clenching est. Before We Get Into Today's Episode For Those Of You That This Is Your

[00:01:27] First Time Listening To Revectionism Rewired Welcome! It's important to Know Everything On This

[00:01:34] Podcast Is Through The Lens Of A Perfectionist A Firming Perspective. What That Means Is You're Not

[00:01:42] Making Yourself Wrong And That You Are Not Fiting Against Yourself? It Is Part Of The Larger,

[00:01:47] Neuro-Diversity Global Movement Which Believes Every Human Is An Individual And That Everyone's

[00:01:54] Experience Of How They Interpret The World Is Unique And Valid. Another way to Think About It

[00:02:01] Perfectionists Are Not A Monolithic Group I'm Learning Sweetest Right Now And It Would Be Like If

[00:02:09] Our Descentition For Swede Was Blonde Tall, Multilingual Great Sons of Human That Is Not The Case

[00:02:18] And When It Comes To Perfectionists Every Single Perfectionist And The Way That Your Perfectionist

[00:02:26] Actonancy Show Up Is Unique And Highly New Onced And Is Yours. Having That Context Is Going To

[00:02:37] Put You At An Advantage When It Comes To This Weeks Up Is Oat As We Go Through These Three Places To

[00:02:45] Check Yourself Before You Rack Yourself When It Comes To It's Always Something You Probably

[00:02:51] Won't Just Be One Of The Three. It'll Likely Be A Combination. Knowing That It Doesn't

[00:02:59] Mean That You're Like Triple F Or Something Because See All G I Have All Three. First of all,

[00:03:06] Victim Minds That We Don't Do That Here. It Doesn't Mean Anything. It's Only One Of These

[00:03:13] Area Resonates With You To Do Three Do These Are The Three Primary Places To Check. Let's

[00:03:20] Get Into It. It's Always Something. Always Something That's Popping Up Or Getting In The Way

[00:03:26] Encoding Clients A Lot On This Lately. And The First Place To Look Is Your Neural Placicity.

[00:03:35] AKA How Rigid Be You Are And Things Need To Go At Exact Certain Way.

[00:03:44] If They Don't Play Out The Certain Way, You Feel That You Are Out Of Was.

[00:03:50] Because You Don't Have That Flexibility Built In Into Your Neural Pathways Where You Are A Death

[00:03:57] Okay, This Thing Happened. And Here's What I'm Gonna Do Instead.

[00:04:01] If That Is The Case For You Where It's Like I'm Good As Long As Everything Goes According

[00:04:06] To Plan And There Are No Surprises Your Perfective Detencies Don't

[00:04:11] Off-Reet Well Under A Stress Test. When I say Stress Test, I Just Mean Being A Human.

[00:04:16] Because That Is Life. It's Different Every Day. That's Good Be You Have It.

[00:04:21] If This Is You, Key Are Is That You Want To Work On That We Have Plenty Of Podcast

[00:04:28] Episodes In The Perfectionism Rewired Podcast Library For You To Listen To.

[00:04:35] But You Specifically Want To Be able To Work On Your Neural Placicity.

[00:04:38] There's A Whole Episode About That I Will Link In The Show Notes.

[00:04:41] You also Want To Look Into Strengthening Your Resilience,

[00:04:46] Which A Huge Part Of Where Resilience Comes From Is That You Shipped Where Your Confidence Is

[00:04:51] Coming From Instead Of Your Confidence Coming From I Always Need To Be Prepared.

[00:04:56] And I Always Need To Know Everything I'm Plan Everything In Control Everything.

[00:04:59] You Switch It Over To My Confidence Comes From My Resourcefulness.

[00:05:04] I Don't Need To Know Everything. I Don't Even Need To Know Anything.

[00:05:07] All That I Know Is That I Will Always Figure At The F-Out.

[00:05:11] I Am Resourceful. So If I Need To Learn Something, I Will Learn Something.

[00:05:16] And You Were Just A able To Be A Lot In Our Present and Iterate.

[00:05:19] The First Place To Look Into When It's Always Something Comes Up For You Is Your Regidity,

[00:05:26] Your Resilience, And How You Can Be More Flexible So That You Can Be More Agile in Your

[00:05:33] Data Day Life. The Second Place To Look And By The Way These Are Not In Order of Priority,

[00:05:38] They're All Important. They Could All Be Number One. I Just Feel Like That Would Be Super Confusing.

[00:05:42] The Second Place To Look Is How You Are Resourced.

[00:05:49] This is Different Than Being Resourceful. What I'm talking about is your mental, physical,

[00:05:55] and emotional capacity. If you Imagine Those As Your Personal Bank Account Of Your Body,

[00:06:04] This Is Something I Teach Inside of Perfectionism Optimize My Private When I Want Coaching.

[00:06:09] It's Called Intelligent Energy Accounting. If You Think About What You Have A Vailable From A Mental

[00:06:16] Physical And Emotional Stand Point, If You Are Always Right On The Edge, When It Comes Your

[00:06:21] An Internal Resources, If You Are Always Like Have One Dollar In Your Account, Constantly Fleerting With

[00:06:29] The Over Draft, Then It Will Feel Like It's Always Something. It's Just Like That Person Who Is

[00:06:37] Perpetually Broke. And They Feel That It's Always Something. It's Always My Car Registration,

[00:06:42] My Mortgage, A Surgery That You Need, A Deductible That You Need To Meet. Yeah, You Could Look

[00:06:48] At It As It's Always Something Or Let's Figure Out How You Can Have More Money Coming In Then There

[00:06:55] Is Going Out. It's The Same Thing When It Comes To You, How Can You Have More Emotional Physical

[00:07:02] Mental Resources There In Your Supply. So You Have That Cushing Do Then Deal With It.

[00:07:11] Instead of Feeling Like It's Always Something, You Know And I mean It's Just Like When You

[00:07:15] Get An Unexpected Bill. It might Not Love Can It But It's Not Putting You In A Dyer Circumstance.

[00:07:22] And When You Feel Like Oh He's Something It Really Does Rattle You. It Can Be Exhausting

[00:07:28] Then You Want To Look Into How My Resource In Myself. And A Lot Of Times When Clients First Come To

[00:07:36] Me, They're Not. Which Isn't A Bad Thing There's No Judgment Here. This Is A Really Great

[00:07:39] Opportunity For You To See Just Like With The Money An Allogy. If I Capped $1000 Minimum or $5,000

[00:07:47] Minimum or $10,000 Minimum in my Chuck Eat account, I Would No longer Feel Like It's Always Something

[00:07:51] Because I Would Have The Resources. It's The Same Thing With Yourself. How Do You Build Up Those

[00:07:56] Resources? The fastest, most sustainable. And I'm Fishery To Do That It's To Work With A Coach

[00:08:05] Who Specializes In High Cheering Type A Provectionous Like Yourself. That Does Resinate. Then

[00:08:11] Ask Yourself What Am I During Your Resource In Myself? Step Into The Truth.

[00:08:14] Both Take A Look At That. Answer Honestly, Do You Want To Have More Resources There?

[00:08:18] OK, You Might Want That Are You Willing To Invest The Time Energy Money Focus

[00:08:25] Into Developing Those. And Then If The Answer Is Yes, Go About Looking Into That For Yourself.

[00:08:32] There are Lots Of Pod Pass I Have Previously Done That Give Ideas And Ways You Yourself

[00:08:39] Can Emotionally Mentally And Physically Be Getting To Re-Structure Your Internal Resources.

[00:08:46] OK, So Only Something That's Popping Up Or Getting In The Way.

[00:08:49] The First Place To Look Into Is The Regidity. The Second Place To Look Number Two Is The Resources

[00:08:55] Aren't There. Number Three This Is What Comes Up Or Clients Inside Of Perfectionism Optimize

[00:09:02] My Private One I Want Coaching After We Been Working Together For Six Months Or So They Have

[00:09:07] Be Come Way More Flexible. They have All These Uneral Pathways. They Are Building Up Those Resources

[00:09:12] In Their Own Person, They Can Count. And They're Still Feeling Like It's Only Something.

[00:09:19] When That Comes Up, It's Time To Look At Are You Hording Responsibilities?

[00:09:26] This Is Different Than How Resource Do You Are. It's Like If You're Co Room Moms With Someone

[00:09:33] And That Other Room Moms Isn't Doing Anything And You Are Doing The Work Of Two People,

[00:09:37] It Will Feel Like There's Always Something Coming Up Because You Have Over Allicated Yourself

[00:09:43] In Your Life. It's Really Looking At How You Can Create Some Impeccable Boundaries For Yourself

[00:09:52] So That It Doesn't Feel Like You're Walking On A Tite Rope Any More That You Are Walking On A Floor.

[00:09:59] Because If Thing With Us Is Perfectionists, Our Gift Is That We Are Abble To See Potentials,

[00:10:07] Possibilities And What Could Be Improved Upon Everywhere. We,

[00:10:12] Possess The Internal For Our You Drive To Make Those Things Happen, To Bring Those Things

[00:10:19] Into Frouacent. We Have It With In Us. We're Like Yeah I Want To Do That Get Adder Jesus Us.

[00:10:25] We're Other People Who Aren't Perfectionists We'll Look At Us And They're Just Like.

[00:10:28] Don't You Ever Relax And You're Like This Is Realizing For Me I Relax In A Different

[00:10:33] Way As Perfectionists We're Like Sides The Limit But Because We're So Used To Having Sides The Limit,

[00:10:39] We Don't Have A Floor To Stand On. We're Just On This Little Tite Rope With No Not Below Us.

[00:10:45] When You Are Walking On A Tite Rope You Have Infected Boundaries, No One Ever Taut Us.

[00:10:51] You Can See Infant Impossible But You Need To Have A Strong Floor So That When You Slet And Fall

[00:10:58] Metaphorically Or When Something Comes Up In Your Life And You're Like,

[00:11:02] Oh, It's Always Something. It Doesn't Feel Dibilitating.

[00:11:05] It Doesn't Even Feel Like, Oh, It's Always Something And She's Like, Oh,

[00:11:09] It's This Something I Can Have A That. Oh, That's A Little A Noine But Here We Go.

[00:11:14] It Doesn't Ther You For A Loop It Doesn't Is A Thio. This Third One Impackable Boundaries,

[00:11:20] Oh, Of You Can Work On. A Lot Of Times There Is Some Fear Especially If You Are Still In Your

[00:11:27] People Pleaser Era Or Currently Exitting Your People Pleaser Era.

[00:11:32] I Don't Know How This Person's Gonna React. I Don't Know How This Is Getting It Done,

[00:11:35] Because I've Always Done It. You Might Even Be Like, What Are Impackable Boundaries, CLG?

[00:11:40] I've Recorded An Exisode, Alibout And Peckable Boundaries, And How To Create Your Floor.

[00:11:45] For My Private When I Want Coaching Crying, I've Decided To Share It With You,

[00:11:50] Because I Truly Believe That This Podcast Depisode You're Going To Be Listening To Net

[00:11:55] Is The Best Podcast Episode I Have Ever Made In My Entire Career.

[00:12:03] For This Episode, If You're Like I've Always Something To Recap,

[00:12:06] You Want To Look At Those Three Are Is One How Flexible Are You?

[00:12:11] How Is The Regidity? Where Is It That You Are Getting Your Confidence In Your Capabilities?

[00:12:18] Is It From Being Over For Pair Controlling Everything Everything Must Go According to Plan.

[00:12:22] If It Is, You Definitely Want To Switch That Because You're Just Doing Life On Hard Mode,

[00:12:27] Not Like The Fun Challenging Kind Of Hard Mode, Like The Hard Mode.

[00:12:31] I Have Stalk In Factions And All Of My Toes And It's Just A Really Hard To Walk.

[00:12:35] Like That Kind Of Hard Mode. So That's Number 1. Number 2 Is Working At Your Person Bank Account.

[00:12:42] How Resource Are You Mentally Emotionally And Physically?

[00:12:47] So That When Things Do Papp Up, It Doesn't Feel Like You Are Always On The Verge Of Being Over

[00:12:55] Drath. Or Like I Wish This Purchase Could Be Decline Because I Just Don't Have It In Me.

[00:13:00] If That Is You Look At How Are You Recourcing Yourself?

[00:13:04] If You Are It All, Do You Want To Change That And Are You Willing To Invest The Money Time

[00:13:12] Focus And Energy Into Creating Those Resources For You.

[00:13:16] So You Can Have That Sistignability And Never Feel Like It's Always Something Because You Have

[00:13:22] The Reserves To Handle It Without Griding Yourself Down A Bit.

[00:13:26] Once Number 1 Is Covered You Have All The Noural Papp It's Number 2 You're Like Okay, I've Been

[00:13:31] Creating A Surplus In My Person Bank Account. I Am Actively Doing Things Each Day That Add To My Physical

[00:13:41] Mental An Emotional Wellness. You Got Those On Law. Then It's This Third Area. Are You Walking

[00:13:48] On A Tight Row Instead Of A Floor? Which You'll Learn About In The Next Step?

[00:13:52] So In Packable Boundaries Are Boundaries That Are Made For You To Support Yourself

[00:13:58] Emotionally Physically And Mentally They're Not To Control Or Change Other People.

[00:14:04] They Are Not M. D. Threats. Which I think is What Most Of Us Have Been Totted About Boundaries.

[00:14:08] Those Are In Effective Boundaries. So Instead It's Really Looking At Yourself And How You Can

[00:14:13] Get Those In Packable Boundaries Emplaced So That It's Not All Falling On Your Shoulders.

[00:14:18] And It Doesn't Feel Like It's Always Something Because It's Not Always All On You.

[00:14:23] If Any Of These Resinated With You And You're Like I Don't Want It's Always Something

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