Overachievers, break free from stressy ruminating + overthinking TODAY with this simple overachiever tool that shows you how to calm your mind from overwhelm. Listen as I walk you step-by-step how you can get an accurate read of what's happening inside your overachiever brain + clear up your perspective so that you can finally feel calm-ish.
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The best tool for how to deal with anxiety and overthinking when you're an overachiever
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Courtney Love Gavin (CLG) [00:00:00]:
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Welcome to Perfectionism Rewired.
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Quick hit for you today. We Spend especially as perfectionists, we spend a lot, lot, lot of time generalizing cognitively and just Being vague, and I just think of it as like swampy. It's just swampy up there. And we are swimming in stress or too much or I'm not good enough yet or it's not enough. Oh, that just feels icky. But like Truth Booth, where so much of this Sucky, suckiness, and overthinking, and catastrophizing, and ruminating comes from. It's so much simpler than that. It's just all you need to do is simplify and get clear.
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And that is what paper thinking will do for you because we can talk faster than we can actually write. Whether you're writing with your Apple Pencil on your iPad, or even in a pinch, you can do thumb typing on the notes. I would not recommend doing a voice memo for this. Saying I'm stressed doesn't help. You want to be What are you stressed about? What is it specifically that is nagging at your brain? You want to ask Yourself, what am I stressed about? And like, what is it specifically? Like it my job. What is it about your job? Well, my boss, which boss? What is it about that boss? You wanna ask why
Courtney Love Gavin (CLG) [00:02:32]:
you wanna be like that annoying 3 year old and why and why
Courtney Love Gavin (CLG) [00:02:35]:
and why you wanna drill all the way down on it. Because like when it stays in your head, I want you to think that it's just like turds floating in the toilet. When you get explicit and you get it out of your head, we're flushing the turds. Okay. So in this example of I'm stressed,
Courtney Love Gavin (CLG) [00:02:55]:
I'm all up in my head and I
Courtney Love Gavin (CLG) [00:02:56]:
can't stay present. Okay. Where's the anxiety in your body? What does it feel like? This is where you start to hone your interoceptive skills. I would say it it's in my chest and it feels like GAC on Nickelodeon. You know, that Stuff that I think it was, like, pre slime that we had, and it would make those farting noises. That's what it sort of feels like inside my chest. And I noticed that My toes are curled a little bit and I feel clenchy and I'm bracing and my shoulders are hunched forward and I'm hyper focusing. Like, I'm not Present of the environment around me.
Courtney Love Gavin (CLG) [00:03:32]:
I'll tune out what kids are saying. Okay. So what's actually going on? Then it would be like, I have these emails and work on my presentation, make dinner, clean up, put the kids to bed, and I wanna work out. So you like write it all down. And, yep, that's a lot. How can you make it simpler?
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