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TIMESTAMPS:
00:00-Perfectionists + Valuing Yourself Beyond Achievements
01:52-Upgrading From "Being Successful to Be Proud Of You"
03:15-Why being proud is USEFUL SKILL for perfectionists
04:57-Living a life stuck in inadequacy
06:03-Fear of Losing Motivation if Proud Now
07:48-Finding something to be proud of: $3,000,000 challenge
08:31-Attaching productivity to proud aka POISON
09:50-Passive failing vs. active failing
11:17-Feeling proud without eradicating negative emotions
12:56-Shrinking the part of your brain that triggers stress
SOURCES REFERENCED In Ep. 237
- Fischer, J. (2012). Being Proud and Feeling Proud: Character, Emotion, and the Moral Psychology of Personal Ideals. The Journal of Value Inquiry, 46(2), 209–222. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10790-012-9337-x
- Neff, K. D. (2009). The Role of Self-Compassion in Development: A Healthier Way to Relate to Oneself. Human Development, 52(4), 211–214. https://doi.org/10.1159/000215071
- Nepon, T. (2024). Perfectionism, Self-Image Goals and Compassionate Goals in Health and Mental Health: A Longitudinal Analysis - Taryn Nepon, Gordon L. Flett, Paul L. Hewitt, 2024. https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/07342829241239997
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